Love as a Tool for Awakening

Can we use love and relationships as a vehicle for awakening?

For ascension and expansion?

Friends and lovers who match your vibration and raise our frequency.

What does that even mean!?

Imagine loving without having to constantly please, placate, fix, or walk on eggshells with the other person. Is your life with your friend or lover a joyful union...….....or one bump after another of your personalities and behavior clashing? This does not mean that relationships are easy all the time, life is full up ups and downs and things will happen that you must learn to overcome individually and together.

When you think about the relationships you want in this current lifetime, have you come to close karmic loops —or create more lessons to learn?

If your lover or friend is not someone you want to be more like, why are you with them?

A partner or friend who expects you to tolerate things that they would never accept from you, is not being true to you. You cannot love someone into seeing you clearly. You don’t simply marry someone and perform a relationship.

These are spiritual contracts.

Are you going to repeat unresolved patterns over and over, or evolve into deeper self awareness together? Two people doing their inner work can transform what might have been an endless loop into something enjoyable. Life will throw it's curve balls, but can you ride the waves together without pulling each other down?

For better or worse, we influence each other’s evolution.

Someone who truly loves and sees you may expose your shadow behavior or challenge your discipline — not to control you, but because your frequency together has gone out of resonance. If you’ve been in a deep relationship or friendship, you know it can reach a point where two people understand each other’s thoughts and feelings instantly and intuitively. It’s more than “knowing.” Sometimes you’re simply thinking and feeling on the same wavelength or frequency.

When that alignment shifts, you often feel it before words are spoken. There is a subtle communication between your energy fields, your presence, your awareness your aura and chakras. You know before you know. The feeling becomes 'off' or discordant. A healthy partner can hold up the sacred mirror — allowing you to see yourself from another perspective and giving you the space to expand, change, and grow.

A partner with a sacred mirror reflects your behavior without yelling, accusing, or harming you in any way. They are able to show you another view of yourself. The mirror also shows you how deeply you are loved. Helping someone see their patterns is not the same as forcing them to change. Only they can change themselves.

Love is not domination.

When you are truly hearing with love you don’t need to rush to agree or disagree; you are able to listen to understand. You are able to hold space, and don't need to react with opinions. On the other side you can share your own perspective without feeling like you have to coerce them to hear you. Your lover or friend can hold two opinions at once without offense. You each can listen without needing to fix or change each other. When no one is trying to control you, you are free to explore and find out who you are becoming. There is no point in trying to force someone to understand your view. After all, whose perspective is more valid —the spider or the eagle?

The fountain of love from the source of all life is never-ending. Its purpose is to give, to serve, to expand, to multiply, to transform, to enrich, to hold and to be held. Love can whisper and love can stave off death. There is nothing that love cannot dissolve or grow.

Also, you have not yet met all the people in this life you are meant to meet.

Life keeps introducing us to new mirrors.

New friends. New teachers. New polarities. New allies. New paths.

Endless opportunities to delight your heart and expand your consciousness.

with Love,

Aja